Posted by happyflower on April 21, 2006, at 20:58:26
In reply to An apology for my post yesterday, posted by orchid on April 21, 2006, at 19:25:04
I really don't need an apology, nothing you said hurt my feelings. I do think the post was going to cause trouble, some would say it was "troll-like", but since we do know you, it isn't the case.
Even though you went through some heavy attachment yourself, it seems like to me you are less sensitive to others going through the same thing, even though you have somehow got over it. I feel you still might have some buried emotions about this. I could be wrong but it is what I am feeling. Kinda like your last post,and other simular posts seemed almost passive aggressive to me.The only thing I can say is when you make an apology to someone, to make it more sincere, it shouldn't have an excuse to why, or it will seem like you are making excuses for yourself or defending yourself instead of really apologing.
I have learned this through therapy. An apology shouldn't be a discuised use for self justification for an action done.
I am trying my best to be civil about this but yet be truthful for how I feel.
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