Posted by Racer on April 18, 2006, at 12:37:00
In reply to This doesn't feel good, posted by jammerlich on April 18, 2006, at 11:25:07
> Her husband may very well be ill, but I'm having a hard time believing he's the reason we aren't going. What difference does it make whether she's in or out of town - she's still gone all day?
I don't think I agree. You know her, I don't, and you might be right. OR it might just be that he feels a sense of security in having her "in town" when he's sick. And it could be that there's a control thing within their marriage that you don't know about, and this is his way to assert some control over her actions.
There are too many things you can't know about other people, really. I guess I think that you've got a couple of choices: extrapolate things you've done onto the behavior of others, which might make you feel bad (as it has in this instance); or take what she's said on faith, trust her to have been honest with you, and go forward with a friendship which is valuable to you.
I wish you didn't feel so bad, but I think in this case you may be reacting based on facts not in evidence. If you can let go of those, you may feel better, and that really is the end goal here, right?
Peace.
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