Re: Can I ask my T for a reference?

Posted by Emily Elizabeth on April 15, 2006, at 23:44:27

In reply to Can I ask my T for a reference?, posted by milly on April 15, 2006, at 16:36:41

I don't think that your T would feel comfortable giving you a ref (no matter how he feels abt you). It crosses a boundary. Someone who writes a ref is by definition judging you. A T shouldn't be doing that. And a relationship w/ a T is very dif from a relationship w/ a boss.
However, I do think that you should talk abt this job possibility w/ your T. I must admit that I'm concerned that this job would be very, very intense for you (or anyone). It is a complex situation and I suspect that you and your T could have a helpful discussion about it.
Best,
EE

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Can I ask my T for a reference? milly 4/15/06
Re: Can I ask my T for a reference? Dinah 4/15/06
Re: Can I ask my T for a reference? Emily Elizabeth 4/15/06
Re: Can I ask my T for a reference? » milly muffled 4/16/06
You can certainly ask » milly pseudoname 4/16/06
Re: Can I ask my T for a reference? shrinking violet 4/17/06
I've made a decision milly 4/18/06
Re: I've made a decision » milly muffled 4/18/06

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