Posted by LadyBug on April 10, 2006, at 14:57:40
In reply to I feel so hurt and sad and mad too., posted by happyflower on April 10, 2006, at 13:04:38
I know what you're feeling exactly. I want to go to my T's house and chat with her. Or go to lunch or something. But the rules say, "no"? It hurts so much. Maybe that's one reason I stay with her, I don't want to ever say goodbye, it would hurt too much. Any chance of you staying longer? I've been with mine for 9 years. She tells me not to worry about quitting and someday I will get to the point that I will know that it's time? But I love her too much not to see her again. She has reassured me that I can go see her again if the need should arise. Even if she is reitred, she said I could give her a call. I hope she means it. I've settled with having her in the therapist/patient setting, not my choice of course, but it's the way it is. She says if it hurts to think about leaving, then I'm not ready. I won't ever be ready. She is my soft place to land. If my marriage were better, I probably wouldn't feel I need her like I do. She makes me feel good about who I am, otherwise I don't. And my goal is to feel good about who I am all the time. It's so hard.
I'm so sorry, talk to him about how you feel hurt by this and see if you can work something through that feels reasonable.
Hugs and understanding
Ladybug
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