Posted by orchid on April 10, 2006, at 14:22:18
In reply to out of lurkdown...T1 v. T2 dilemma/painful goodbye, posted by RainDrops on April 9, 2006, at 22:11:42
I think Ts are trained to handle it well when long lasting patients leave them. Plus, it won't do your T1 good either to know that she is not helping you anymore, but you continue to see her, just for the sake of old times. I am sure Ts don't want any pity from us. So in the long run, neither will she feel good, nor will you feel good if you choose to see her knowing well that she isn't helping you anymore.
It is better to stop seeing her (T1), and part from her in good terms, and keeping the option open to see her at a later date if you so choose at that time, and then continue with your T2.
That said, I do understand how painful it must be to let go off a T relationship that you have had for years. You must have developed quite a strong connection and bond with her over the years, and termination is not an easy option. But I think you would be better off in the long run, sticking with what works for you now, and be with T2, and work out your issues better.
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