Posted by Dinah on March 23, 2006, at 23:39:43
In reply to Angry, Hurt and Sad, posted by LadyBug on March 23, 2006, at 22:36:05
Been there many times. My therapist swears he's forgetful, but I think he doesn't like to have me upset with him and unconsciously forgets so it doesn't get processed.
But, whoever's right, it was a problem for me, and it wasn't really one for him.
So after talking about it a million times with no appreciable difference, I started asking him at the beginning of each session if he has anything he needs to tell me. He got annoyed for a while, but every time he brought it up, I asked him if he could promise me that if I didn't ask he'd promise to remember to tell me in plenty of time to process it before the end of the session. He couldn't promise, so I kept asking. He now has decided to find it amusing, which is ok, because I get my needs met. I ask, and if there's something coming up I find out, and there's plenty of time to process it.
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