Posted by fallsfall on February 15, 2006, at 21:02:02
In reply to no feelings in therapy, posted by wishingstar on February 14, 2006, at 21:32:02
It sounds like you are working very hard. Good for you. And it sounds like you do know what you need to do. What kind of therapy does she do? Is she CBT?
I went to a CBT therapist for 8 1/2 years. At the end I knew that I needed to go "deeper". I think this is similar to your need to get to the feelings instead of the thoughts. I found that there was a limit to how far I could get just dealing with the thoughts - because the problem was that the feelings were illogical. But knowing that didn't make them become logical. Anyway, I asked my CBT therapist if we could go "deeper". She tried, but it was clear that she really didn't know how to help me with that.
I switched to a Psychodynamic therapist and he knew exactly what I needed. It was quite a relief to me, to have someone who could help me in the way that I needed help.
In my case, I stayed too long with the CBT therapist. I got into some pretty big ruts with her, and it took a long time to get out of them with my new therapist. If I had it to do over, I wouldn't have stayed as long with her - even if it meant having no therapy in the middle (though there was no way you could have ever convinced me of that at the time). I guess I'm just saying that if you are getting frustrated with her (and it sounds like you have been pretty clear about what you need), that staying just because she's giving you a price break is not necessarily the best choice.
Good luck. Stay open and honest - it will serve you well.
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