Posted by Daisym on February 6, 2006, at 22:40:56
In reply to Is this the termination phase?, posted by Dinah on February 6, 2006, at 3:46:24
(((Dinah)))
Not stupid at all. Painful. Tearful. A heart full of loss. Too much for any one soul. You have every reason to mourn your place of comfort and safety that got ripped away so brutally. The unpredictibility of it is flat out terrifying.
I don't know about termination. I haven't done one yet, in the true sense of the word. But we seem to be in similar places of giving up that anyone else can take care of us and that we MUST take care of ourselves. And thus we do. But it is a lonely, scary place to live, full of anxiety and other challenges. It was easier to melt into the security that the walls of the therapy office offered. Or used to offer.
Do we redefine our sense of safety? Do we go through these really painful separation episodes to end up at a place of mature relationship without the neediness? I really don't know.
But I'll listen as long as you need to talk about it. Keep posting. It helps me to think about it too.
Hugs,
Daisy
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