Posted by muffled on February 3, 2006, at 13:03:40
In reply to Thats it I'm heading under the duvet, posted by milly on February 3, 2006, at 12:50:51
> Can't cope with this but hate myself for not being the mother they used to have.
> Just because I'm not a crying wreck at the moment my girls think I'm back to me (whatever that was) and have just invited 9 friends to stay over tonight.(Mum won't mind!!)
> I feel completly hopeless and pathetic but my space has been invaded and it makes me feel so vulnerable
> They've had a horrid time with a horrid mother so I should be able to be this 'all welcoming mother' they once had but I can't.
> Heading to bed
> milly***Awwwww Milly. Sh*ts its sohard isn't it? Being a Mom. Its like Mom is such a major thing. HUGE. So when we down its double worse cuz everybody depends on us. But you know what, they do manage. I have found that I need to make time for myself and not feel guilty about it. I'm taking better care of my physical and mental health. And sometimes that means I put myself first. Its hard to do without feeling guilty. But if I can't get it together they gonna end up with no Mom cuz I totally gonna lose it. Lately I am trying to be thankful that I'm not crazier than I am. I AM managing to function in day to day life. Mebbbe not well, but I'm working on it. What else can I do?
How old are your kids?
NINE friends!!!!!!! Its weird and awful that when you are down that the kids have lost their stability and then they behave WORSE than ever and we Moms just don't have the resources to cope with it.
Is there an even moderately supportive husband in the pic?
Or a family member, close friend.
That can help advocate for you with the kids?
Anyways, hope things look up for you, know how you feel, you not alone, it does get better. Sometimes a good hide under the quilt is just the best thing.
Take care Milly,
I'm in your corner!
Muffled
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