Posted by Dinah on January 31, 2006, at 11:35:59
In reply to Should 'being a Jessica' pass into English languag, posted by milly on January 31, 2006, at 10:23:39
I think it is an understandable and very common need.
Although I also understand the reasons therapists wouldn't want to gratify it. No, I'm lying. As long as it's understood what is meant by therapeutic caring I don't really see that it's a negative thing.
My therapist has managed to tell me I'm special to him without making it terribly personal. He talks about how long and hard we've worked together and how that working together has forged a relationship that is special. Which is good enough for me. I know we don't have all that much in common and wouldn't really hang out together. And although I may be having trouble remembering it now, he also showed me that I was special in his actions. In going above and beyond the call of duty. Overall his actions were more important to me. He could have told me he cared about me till the cows came home and I would have discounted it.
But maybe you could remind me of this when I forget again. There are these warring voices in my head, and sometimes the voice that says I'm a pathetic leech clinging to him against his will drowns the other voices. Or that he groans when he hears my voice. Or that he flinches when he thinks about me caring about him so much.
Maybe he might not tell you what you want to hear, but maybe talking about it is important anyway?
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