Posted by Voce on January 19, 2006, at 22:49:15
I'm in pre-marital counseling now with my fiance. It's a requirement of all couples who get married in our church. It's pretty low profile, compared to traditional therapy. We take personality tests like the Taylor-Johnson and the Myers-Briggs, which will actually be kind of fun.
But the other part is the family history. And this is where it gets complicated. The man who is doing our counselling is an MFT who is on staff at the church, but he works very closely with my dad. As in, my dad kind of oversees the whole staff this man is on. We had our first session with him last night and to his credit, he started the session by assuring the two of us that everything is confidential, and that this is especially important because of who my dad is.
I wish to high heaven that we were doing this with someone who doesn't know either of us. I feel very strange discussing my family with this man, professional though he may be. Plus, I don't want to rehash everything again, especially since there's nothing in my childhood my fiance doesn't already know.
I don't know how I'll handle the family history discussions. I may just say things on a "need to know" basis and even then not get into gory details. My absolutely worst fear is that I'll cry. Because that would be freaky now wouldn't it, to cry in pre-marital counselling.
What do you guys think?
poster:Voce
thread:600910
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