Posted by fallsfall on January 14, 2006, at 17:27:51
In reply to Advice and possible explanation of behavior?, posted by Racer on January 14, 2006, at 16:44:16
Saving her will not ultimately help her. It is so hard not to save someone when they are pleading to be saved. You are doing the right things - making sure she is aware of resources that can help her. This is really hard, Racer. Tell her that you have confidence that she will resolve her own problems, remind her of the resources she should be using, and then tell yourself that she is making choices for her life (and that she has the right to make choices - even bad ones).
Set your boundaries. You'll be her friend and do friend things (go to the movies, go shopping, whatever). But you won't rescue her. She needs to learn to organize her life so she doesn't need rescuing. Is she suicidal, or just crisis prone?
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