Posted by Rigby on December 14, 2005, at 20:23:35
In reply to Re: Curiosity About Therapist/Ending Therapy » Rigby, posted by Dinah on December 14, 2005, at 17:13:17
Hi Dinah,
I guess it's therapeutic--I think. I'm not exactly sure what the difference would be?
> Is it therapeutic curiousity or personal curiosity? I'm sort of careful not to step into my therapist's life unless he brings something up. And even then I'm scrupulously noncommittal in my response. But then, I'm that way with just about anyone (IRL anyway).I have asked her, said I feel alone--like there's not many on this journey--coming out of the closet in reverse and would she just freaking throw me a bone and she said she didn't want her experience to color mine. My experience was mine. I guess because her boundaries sucked in the beginning she's super closed now. When I said something about her being so rule based she said she wasn't. I asked her to talk about a rule she wasn't following and she thought for a moment and said that she spends a lot of time thinking about me (I assumed she meant my "case" as that's how it sounded.)
> If you have the sort of therapist who wouldn't mind it, I can see where you might bring up what you had been told and the things it caused you to wonder. She may or may not answer about her own life. But she might be more willing to talk about the feelings you have about it. I suspect that's what mine would do.I set out to accomplish two things: 1. To no longer feel waves of wanting to kill myself and 2. To be in an intimate relationship--one that combines love and sex. I'm there and it's been a long, four year road. The question is, do I have more goals in therapy--or more goals that I would want to pursue with *this* therapist.
> Ending therapy... What a difficult subject! Do you feel like you've accomplished what you set out to accomplish?Thanks so much for your thoughtful post--really appreciate it.
Rigby
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