Posted by allisonross on December 13, 2005, at 5:54:02
In reply to Re: Done Explaining...I am exhausted » allisonross, posted by annierose on December 12, 2005, at 16:30:39
> So I'm trying to understand and get the bigger picture. Your adult children both attended the same church. AND, they still attend that church, even after you were kicked out. Do you even see your grandchildren?
Hi, sweetie: Should have made it plainer....My daughter (son in law and grandchildren) still attend...that is painful for me, but nothing I can do. My son left the church before the debacle happened.
Actually the church voted me out of membership (legalism); I could still go, but that would be insane (LOL)
Yes, I still see my grandchildren; I instituted a family time on Sundays, and they come over for dinner.
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> I can only imagine the pain of having gone through that experience and lose your adult children and grandchildren too. Then go through a divorce ... that is a TON of loss.
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> I don't know your church, so forgive me if this sounds like a mean thing to say, but I just don't understand a church that "kicks people out", it sounds more of a cult.It is.
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> My husband and I come from different religions entirely. I find peace at temples and churches that speak of God's goodness, and of people's kindness, rather than punishment. Have you found a new church yet? Did you join their choir?
I went to another church (2 times); I liked it very much, but found all I did was cry, so can't do that to myself; may never go again, and that is a shame. I do miss singing.If you would like to read the whole sordid story, and see my poetrty (of anguish, healing, hope aned comfort) www.churchabusepoetrytherapy.com
It's been amazing. I've always been able to make all of the ugliness of my life...into something positive, and the website was one of those things...somethng beautiful...came from the ashes.
Thank you for your kind words and care.
Hugs, Ally
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