Posted by LegWarmers on December 11, 2005, at 17:56:36
In reply to Re: Forgive and Forget » LegWarmers, posted by Tamar on December 11, 2005, at 17:40:03
> > There are times when I look back and realize that my attitude has only washed my experiences aside and helped me to further bury them.
> > Ive read some posts today that unfortunately I am not up to respond to. Its got me really thinking.
> > Forgive and forget, maybe its excessive?
> > Any thoughts?
>
> Hmmm.. I guess that depends on whether it's possible. People often want to forgive before they are really ready to. People often think that forgiving will help them make peace with their experiences.
>Yes, I think that's right.
> But my personal opinion is that forgiveness isn't possible until people have made peace with their experiences. And sometimes it isn't deserved or appropriate to forgive.
>How do people make peace without forgiving?
> And sometimes it isn't sensible to forget.
>
> People who have managed to forgive often say that it was a crucial part of their healing. But I think the same thing can be reached without forgiveness in situations where forgiveness doesn't seem appropriate.
>
> What do you think?
>I see what you are saying. Understanding it at an emotional level is hard for me. It's much easier to be matter of fact about things. You made a lot of sense to me though.
-Legs
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