Posted by allisonross on November 9, 2005, at 8:36:25
In reply to Things I'm afraid of » rjlockhart, posted by Jen Star on November 8, 2005, at 23:56:45
> Oh, Jen, sweetie: What a list!
I read somewhere (not that this will help), that MOST of the things you worry about, never happen.
i grew up with a mother who worried every day, about every THING.. I made a choice to NEVER worry about anything I couldn't do anything about, or had no control over.
That takes care of MOST of everything in life. We can't know from 1 second to the next what will happen.
Are there LOGICAL reasons for any of your fears? Have you ever discussed those with a T? Of course, fears can be IL-ogical; those are pretty difficult to get rid of!
I really only had ONE fear; that of being alone, (abandoned by every man in my life; beginning with never knowing my father) and guess what!
IT is here! Divorced after 31 years of abuse, not to mention the loss of my church (of 31 years); voted out of membership, ya know .
Alone.
Since I cannot do anything about it, I just cope the best I can. Fortuntely I am resilient (good thing, or I might be drooling in a corner somewhere).
I feel so sad that there are so many things you are fearful of.
I say this (i know you probably realize this; and I have always thought of myself as the poster-child for sensitivity
(actually, it is called "hyper-sensitivity" from being abused)
I cannot bear it, if I though I hurt someone's feelings.
but, what a waste of your beautiful life, to worry (it only can make you crazy, LOL)..please forgive me, if I have offended you, and I am sure you know all of this.
My mother STILL worries about everything and she is 83; practically NOTHING she ever worried about; happened!
Since I am a believer; I keep these thoughts in my head: "I will never leave you or forsake you" / "I am with you always, even unto the end of the world"
Sometimes, that's all that keeps me going, sweetie.
P.S. I lied (LOL), your number 19 is on my list!
Hugs and love to you, dear new friend. I am coming right over and taking you out to dinner (drinks?), and we will talk this over!
The born (thank God) optimist!
Hugs, Ally1. having a heart attack
> 2. Going blind
> 3. Getting MS or Lou Gehrig's
> 4. My husband having a heart attack or getting in a terrible car accident
> 5. Becoming crippled
> 6. Becoming paralyzed
> 7. Never being as successful as I want
> 8. Becoming homeless
> 9. Losing all my family and turning into a raving lunatic, inconsolable, crazy, manic
> 10. Death
> 11. panic attacks
> 12. large beetles
> 13. airplanes (during turbulence)
> 14. that maybe people really hate me
> 15. that maybe I'm just ordinary after all
> 16. that my dog will get sick or die
> 17. that I'll never have a baby
> 18. that I'll die young
> 19. that I'll die old and completely alone
> 20. that there is no God
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> And that's the SHORT list!
>
> JenStar
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