Posted by antigua on November 8, 2005, at 6:40:31
In reply to Re: I'm afraid (slight trigger) » daisym, posted by Tamar on November 8, 2005, at 6:22:20
I loved what Tamar wrote; I hope she was as helpful to you as she was to me!
Sex is still such a difficult topic, but it has gotten so much better between my husband and myself. We have certain rules: for years it was no oral sex, but now I don't find that as triggering and if I do, I back up. This will sound funny, but I have to be in control. I don't like to be approached when I am asleep or in the dark, and my husband has gotten used to it. I used to have to have had a few drinks to loosen up, but since I don't drink anymore, that has made things a little different and me being in more control of when sex takes place has helped with that a lot.
Listen to your T. Question for you--blow me off if I'm just way off the subject, but do you think having sex with your husband somehow betrays your feeling for your T?
best,
antigu
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