Posted by orchid on October 21, 2005, at 15:27:13
In reply to Confused, need some advice, please help please, posted by happyflower on October 21, 2005, at 14:25:15
I think your T is being little flexible in his boundaries.
It looks very nice now, and maybe enjoyable, but I think it might end up hurting you in the long run.
The more stricter the boundaries are from the beginning, the easier it is for the client to grow and move on without pain. Once you start getting the feeling that you are special, and start wondering if your T really likes you etc, then it always always makes is much more harder in the end to terminate.
As to your other question about whether he is keeping something from you etc, well, you will never know. He will never admit it even if he likes you, and you will end up feeling only more confused.
I hope for your own sake, that your T doesn't encourage your feelings about him by trying to treat you special. Only you will end up hurting and getting confused in the end.
Maybe you should tell him about your attraction to him, and maybe that will bring him back to reality. It might look like it is very hard to take it now, but trust me, these feelings of being special etc, will end up hurting you lot more in the end.
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