Posted by Racer on October 19, 2005, at 22:56:19
In reply to Re: When you react with pain to your T » Racer, posted by Tamar on October 19, 2005, at 19:07:33
You have no idea how much I straightened up in my chair on reading this! I'm laughing, because you hit on a number of things I find rather funny.
There's the old Oscar Wilde line, about 'losing one parent is a tragedy -- losing both looks like carelessness.' But mostly, that thing about lightning striking twice? Uh, since lightning is attracted to specific sorts of things, if the landscape remains the same, lightning is supposed to strike pretty much the same place over, and over, and over... And every time you flip a coin, there's still a 50/50 chance of it coming up tails, no matter how many times in a row it's come up heads. Yes, I get that concept, and agree that many people don't think about it, or think about it and don't get it.
But the thing that really looped me in your post was this part:
> For me the key word is the word ‘magnet’. I can understand why it sent you over the edge. I think there should be a list of banned words and phrases that therapists should never be allowed to utter… and suggesting that someone is a magnet for bad experiences should be somewhere near the start of the list.
>And I'm going to post again on this thread, so I won't tell you what happened today. The M word was what struck me, too, by the way. That's the part that had me cringing. Thank you for understanding that.
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