Posted by fairywings on October 19, 2005, at 20:38:55
In reply to Re: Your therapist **trigger** » fairywings, posted by Tamar on October 19, 2005, at 17:23:24
> This is so hard... You’ve already changed therapists once recently. It would seem so cosmically unjust if things didn’t work out with this one. And yet, if it’s not working it’s not working.
Thanks Tamar,
Yeah, if it wasn't so exasperating it might even be funny.
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> I have to say, I disagree completely with the idea that your mother is off the hook because she was being abused by your dad. the circumstances of your mother’s life are probably irrelevant to your feelings.That's what I thought about my mom and my dad - their lives had nothing to do with my feelings. After last week I felt guilty for even thinking of how I felt. I felt like I was being self absorbed.
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> It sounds to me as if you have a lot of anger to unload, and it would probably be to your advantage if your therapist would listen to it for a few weeks, or months, or as long as it takes.Now I"m afraid to say anything more, so I want to hear what he has to say at my appt.
>If you’re angry, I think that’s probably a good thing, because so many people can’t even feel angry about what has happened to them. Becoming angry with your therapist is probably a step in the right direction, if he can handle it.
Unfortunately anger is one of the only things I really feel. I hate that. I've tempered my anger toward him a lot in the past week, but now I'm willing to give up on therapy with him if he thinks I need to just put it behind me. I don't think that's fair because I DO have so much anger left in me. Where's it going to go if I don't talk about it?
> I really hope things work out with him… if he handles this situation well, then perhaps he’s the therapist for you.
I agree with you and I hope it works out too because I don't want to start over again! Thanks Tamar,
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