Posted by Racer on October 19, 2005, at 14:13:20
In reply to Re: words for abuse... » B2chica, posted by JenStar on October 19, 2005, at 13:56:21
Not only do I agree that your T will likely communicate on a professional level with your pdoc, I would bet that they won't have to discuss many details while doing so.
I know it's got to be hard, and there are times when I would be totally mortified to think that my T and pdoc were discussing me, but you know what? Those were times when there was something really wrong with my relationships with each of them. (I'm thinking Agency From You-Know-Where) Right now, I do trust my T very much, and so I trust her to communicate in a way that is not only professional, but also protective of me. I mostly trust my pdoc, and I do trust that he will always be professional, and I trust that he will communicate fairly towards me, and I even mostly trust that he will think fairly towards me. Therefore, I'm mostly frustrated that they haven't been able to connect with one another to discuss me. Back in the Nightmare Days, though, I didn't trust either of them enough to feel secure with them discussing me.
OK, I got long again. Sorry. My point was that, if you're really freaked out about this communication between them, it's probably worth examining why you're so anxious about it. Is it because you distrust one or the other of them? Or is it just because you have such a habit of shame built up around your issues? That's worth discussing in therapy, in my not nearly humble enough opinion. The other suggestion I have, though, is to echo JenStar -- can you bring yourself to ask your T what was said and how it was framed? Doing so might not only ease your mind, but it might give you some perspective. Could be that, when you hear how they framed it, you'll see your situation in a way that doesn't seem so shameful, maybe even in a way that can allow you to feel some sympathy for yourself. Worth a try, right?
Best luck with this.
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