Posted by orchid on October 14, 2005, at 15:17:42
In reply to Re: How does he help you overcoming these feelings? » orchid, posted by Tamar on October 14, 2005, at 14:42:14
It is ok with me !!! :-)
Actually you have a valid point in that some feelings just can't be overcome or suppressed and needs to be worked through.
Working through the feelings is actually very good, but I was just wondering if there is a way to do it in a faster way.
Like I know for instance, sometimes talking is not the only effective way to work through the feelings. Picturising and visualization techniquest are some times more faster. Similarly, EMDR has also been shown to be little faster. The other day, I read somewhere if you picture the feelings and kind of try to make it distant and in black and white, it kind of reduces the intensity of the feelings.
That is what I was hoping maybe he can tell of a way to reduce the suffering and fasten the recovery.
Sometimes, too much talking about the feelings also makes one kind of "wallowing in the mud". For instance, with my first T, I suffered a lot for nearly 2 years (perhaps even more), and I thought I needed to work throught it with him, and I was just trying to work it through by writing to him again and again. At that time, I thought it was the only way.
But now in retrospect, I think I should have decided to seek face to face therapy quite a while back here, and it would have really helped me overcome these feelings long back, instead of using emails.
I know Daisy is in a different state, but I was just hoping maybe she can try some of the alternative approaches like EMDR or art therapy or something like that, and maybe her therapist might know of a way to do it.
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