Posted by fallsfall on October 8, 2005, at 13:41:29
In reply to Re: Therapy Experts!!?? » Dinah, posted by rainbowbrite on October 7, 2005, at 9:53:13
When we're talking about hard stuff I usually don't look at his face. I look at the flowers (he always has fresh flowers), out the window, at his desk, at the stool, anywhere but at his face.
Lots of the time he lets the silence sit (but he is pretty astute in figuring out when he should ask what I'm thinking about). When the silence gets too much for me, I look at his face. It is my way of saying "I'm stuck. Help me out here". It doesn't always make him start talking, but at least we both know that I'm stuck...
And, yes, lots of times I think that therapists leave the silence because they want us to think about what they just said, or worse - what we just said.
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