Posted by orchid on September 29, 2005, at 14:48:44
In reply to giving up, posted by tooomuchpain on September 29, 2005, at 7:05:12
Hi Toomuchpain,
Actually it is very understandable that she would hesitate to work with you, because she might be afraid for her job. Usually people who go to the board for complaining about a T, might find it difficult to get another T. Like it or not, that is the way the world operates.
But that doesn't mean what you did was wrong. Your ex T was eggregiously irresponsible with you, and it was right that you complained about him. Plus he was so very horribly wrong to have started an affair with you after that, and give you a child, and disappear. It is extremely wrong on his part.
So what you can do, is to find a therapist (maybe try female Ts first, since you had lot of problem with male T), and explain all the things to her up front. Tell her fully what happened. And tell her that you have learnt from it as well.
poster:orchid
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