Posted by messadivoce on September 20, 2005, at 0:10:26
In reply to Re: I wish » messadivoce, posted by Tamar on September 19, 2005, at 15:28:08
<Didn’t you say once that your therapist hugged you when he said goodbye at the end of your last session? It fits so well with the idea of him as beloved, doesn’t it? I think to be loved so often means to give love.>
Oh dear, that turned on the waterworks for me.
He did give me a lot of love.
I, who was afraid of men, terrified of being up close and personal with him in the room, began to trust him. I think that touched him somewhere deep.
Touch was the last barrier for me. But I asked him, at my 3rd to last session, if he would give me a hug. It was *totally* unexpected. I was horrified that it came out of my mouth. But he smiled this huge smile and said, "Yes. Yes you can {have a hug}."
It's not something I would reccomend a T doing with regularity, but if he had said no, it would have damaged the fragile trust I had in him.
He hugged me so tight. I was surprised at his strength. But then again I shouldn't have been because he had been holding me all along, you know?
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