Posted by luvdove on September 8, 2005, at 0:19:21
In reply to Re: Hugs from T?, posted by happyflower on September 7, 2005, at 11:38:33
wow so you asked and he said no! ouch.. I can almost understand that a male T would need to put boundaries there, maybe partly out of paranoia that it might be perceived as sexual. In fact I'm surprised at how many people on here have male T's!!! I see a woman and I wouldn't want it any other way...
It's odd what your T said about it not being a 'personal' relationship cause we tell them our deepest darkest secrets/fears/feelings etc! I'm similar to you in that I don't do crying in therapy.. it's not that I don't want to or need to, they just don't come when I'm there, it's never happened. I cry when I'm by myself, and sometimes I think that if my T could personalise the whole thing just a little bit, then I might be able to reach some of those feelings when I'm with her. You said you'd cry if your T hugged you and I think I would too! Maybe thats why I want one, because I want to bring my feelings in and just don't know how.. I take my rage and let that out though, like you, but no TEARS!!!
Luv
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