Posted by JenStar on September 7, 2005, at 22:46:21
In reply to Re: Crisis - T became so defensive /may be triggering » cricket, posted by kerria on September 7, 2005, at 20:06:32
hi Kerria,
I'm sorry it feels like your T is uncaring. Is it possible, though, that he's trying the "tough love" approach?He's seen that you haven't been able to come in on time or at all lately, and perhaps he's trying to force you to take responsibility for your actions & timeliness.
I don't see it as UN-caring; rather, I see it as "I care but I won't baby you" attitude. Perhaps he's trying to treat you as an adult rather than as a child. And he's leaving it up to YOU to make the decision to come in. He knows you can get there if you really want to; he's there for you when that happens. But he's not going to force you to go, or cajole you into going. You have to be the one making that decision.
Maybe he sees that as the first step to successful therapy -- you being able to get yourself in to his office when you commit to it. And if you can't manage that, he can't help you with the more difficult things?
That's just another take on the situation. Does that seem possible at all? Of course I don't know him or the situation, so I'm offering conjecture.
Have you decided to go back to him? Or do you think you'll try to find someone new?
I hope it goes well, whatever you decide.
take care,
JenStar
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