Posted by fairywings on September 4, 2005, at 21:49:11
In reply to Re: Where we left off...........***trigger*** » fairywings, posted by Tamar on September 4, 2005, at 14:18:40
Thanks Tamar, I think my husband would have been a great T, but I'm glad he's not, don't need anyone else falling in love with him! LOL
What my ex-T said, and I apologize, I should have said the whole thing, that in aquaintence rape the guys convince themselves after the fact that it's consensual because they know the victim, and usually there's drugs or alcohol involved. And in my case there was alcohol and probably pot involved, and I told him that. You're right though, it wasn't helpful to tell me that, and he shouldn't have told me that, and he should have apologized all over himself when I told him that it was hurtful. He's actually a clinical psychologist and I think fancies himself quite the feminist! LOL He's not a bad guy, just doesn't know when to shut up! He had me read "The Courage To Heal" and warned me that it would be really hard for me to read, and it might take me awhile to read it because of the content, but to just take my time with it, which I thought was really sensitive of him. I'd say 90% of the time he was great, but that other 10% he had his head up his BU**! LOL
thanks
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