Posted by rainbowbrite on August 29, 2005, at 1:29:36
In reply to Re: dealing with crap, posted by alexandra_k on August 29, 2005, at 0:59:38
> I think you should do something nice for yourself. Something to take care of yourself. Its hard when you start thinking about / remembering something all the time. But I guess that means you need to grieve for it. And its okay to do that. To let it out. After you have grieved for it for a bit... I think it is supposed to receed.
I havent really allowed myslef to yet. I just can't seem to, I like to forget then deal with it but it might not be working.
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> Guilt can be horrible.
> People do the best they can with what they know at the time. I really believe that. I don't think there is much point feeling guilty for stuff that you can't change. If you have learned some things about how you would like to do something differently next time round then you can feel sad but refocus on the future (I think thats what the function of guilt is supposed to be). Otherwise... Maybe you didn't do anything wrong. maybe you don't need to feel guilty.
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> It is hard when things are hard.
> I'm sorry.
>Thanks
I look back and wonder what if xxx wasnt going on at the time and what if and what if and what if! I hate it. I wish I could have done something. now I just worry about people, people I may not even know!(for no reason) more because I think unconsciously I fear peoples potential. Guilt is awful!
It just shouldn't have happened
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