Posted by Daisym on August 24, 2005, at 13:49:38
In reply to Re: Complete Reversal » alexandra_k, posted by cricket on August 24, 2005, at 11:52:34
Allowing someone to care for you and/or worry about you comes with a whole set of dangers, at least for me. First, it opens you up to the potential of perhaps liking the caring and then wanting the caring and then needing the caring and...what if it goes away? I think abandonment fears wear many different colors.
I also think that having someone care about you makes us vulnerable somehow, it is role I know I'm not comfortable with. I truly don't know how to regulate myself within someone else's caring. I can only tolerate it for so long and then I need to hide myself again. And I always wonder if they would care if they knew the real me, the real truth.
Mostly I think I'm imposing. I don't deserve the care, I'm intruding on their psyche some how, I'm a giant pain in the a** because they HAVE to care...
This is a really complicated part of trust for me. I wish I understood it better.
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