Posted by pinkeye on August 4, 2005, at 19:06:19
I was thinking of something today, and it came to my mind, why even smart people suffer so much in life, and why smartness doesn't help in having good emotions.
And I was thinking that the logical thinking that we typically do in day to day life - which is taught to us in schools and college, and which we use in work - is different from the logic that we need for emotions.
Some people dismiss all emotions as beyond logic - but I think that is not true. Emotions do have a logic - only that it is different from our logical logic.
Our common logic works by analysis, seggregation into groups, reasoning and verbalizing. Whereas our emotions work more by pattern matching, associating, suppressing, and visualizing. They do have a logic that they follow, but that logic is different from our logical logic. And the mistake I made before in life, was to try to solve emotional problems with common sense logic. Of course it would never work. There is an overlap between the two, but there are distinct differences between the two.
And it is the same mistake that many people I know make in trying to deal with emotions. And even my ex T made the same mistake. He followed the logical way of treating me and of course my emotions never understood it. I continued to suffer and repeat the mistakes after a while again and again. I continued to get depressed again and again. I would get better for 3 months, then go back to being depressed. But if he had applied "emotional logic" to my emotions, he would have made much more sense out of me. He would have understood the patterns, and helped me heal those patterns.
I think similar things are already discovered by many people. I was just making a similar observation.
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