Posted by pinkeye on August 2, 2005, at 17:49:59
In reply to Re: Loving your Therapist, posted by deborah anne lott on August 2, 2005, at 12:02:30
Same thing happened with me also Ms. Lott. Lots of therapists get frightened, and they terminate abruptly or leave the client in middle and cut off all contact, hoping that time will heal the clients, but it puts the client's mind through intense trauma.
In my case, I even told my ex psychiatrist, to please give me a litle gradual termination - to allow me to write once every 3 months for couple of more times. But he cut off completely abruptly. He just sent a mail one day saying he wants to be relieved, and I haven't heard back from him - not even a one liner email for the past 6 months. It is so traumatic, and I have had to pick myself up so very badly. He had his reasons perhaps. But I still wish he would have been more gentle with the termination. It was really really cruel and abrupt. I didn't have any clue that I was supposed to stop all contact. We had talked about termination some times, but I had mentioned that I wanted to keep in touch - atleast in a casual basis and he never objected to it.
I have been beating myself up trying to understand what I did wrong. I think he got very scared of my transference. And actually I wasn't even bugging him very much.
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