Posted by pinkeye on August 1, 2005, at 13:14:42
In reply to Re: Is it genuine? Or even okay?, posted by molly_a on August 1, 2005, at 11:42:47
Hi Molly,
I am really impressed by your wisdom and efforts to reach out at 14 !!. I didn't have it at that age. You are amazing !!.
Not all physical contacts need to be ruled out in therapy - hugs and patting on the backs are ok - as long as they are not sexual.
And I am sure he telling you all those things "wishing that you were his child" etc, are kind of casual - not meant to be taken literally. But if some comment makes you feel uncomfortable, bring it up to him. Ask him if he really means that, or just indicates that he likes you.
Therapists are supposed to treat all patients as equal. With kids, many therapists do feel more affectionate with, and I suppose will be more loving and caring than they are with adults. And I suppose that it is ok, as long as it doesn't transgress into something sexual.
I think you are smart enough to find out if he is being sexual, but you said your gut reaction is that he is innocent, and if you feel he is innocent, go along with it.
Perhaps you should bring it up to him, that you are concerned about it, and it might throw some light on to your thoughts.. perhaps you are having some transference towards him, and consequently, feeling all these feelings. It might be worthwhile to bring it up to your therapist. He might be just treating you as a kid, and you might already be a woman, and hence more attuned towards sexuality etc.
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