Posted by Shortelise on July 16, 2005, at 16:22:11
In reply to Touch Issues - Massage, etc - - - - MT??, posted by jammerlich on July 12, 2005, at 17:44:13
My immediate thought on reading you is that to receive a gentle, respectful touch might bring strong feelings of grief because it reminds you of ... Why is this hard to explain?
I mean, when we get what we need, it can by contrast make what we got that we really didn't need or want more poignant.
I would try to stay in the moment.
There are people who do "body work", and some of them specialize in those who have traumas like yours to deal with. You can feel the body stuff there, and go with where it takes you, within limits that the safety of the presence of someone who is trained to help.
I think the body memories we keep are sometimes ignored by T's. I truly believe that we also have to find those things in the body and therapize them too, on the physical level on which they exist.
I was having a massage about 15 years ago and the therapist was massaging my feet and I suddenely, without warning, began to cry. I sobbed and sobbed. When I finally stopped, we talked and he told me that it was SO common. I don't know what the memory was, I was too repressed at the time. But it sure made me cry, whatever it was. It never happened again. I loved that massage therapist, and trusted him implicitly.
Sorry this is so long. Your post just really made me think.
ShortE
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