Posted by All Done on July 8, 2005, at 1:26:14
In reply to therapy has been really intense, posted by crushedout on July 7, 2005, at 19:47:57
(((crushed))),
Sorry you're feeling sad :(.
Are you feeling a loss of not being able to have a relationship outside of therapy with her? Not necessarily literally, but...well, sometimes when I fantasize about my T's "real" life, I start to feel sad or disappointed or something. I wonder if this is because my fantasy is everything I would want for myself in life or in a relationship (with my mom, dad, husband, whoever) - the perfect life or relationship. Unfortunately, the perfect life just isn't going to happen. So, I get sad when I think about what I haven't had, don't have, or will never have.
The good side to all of this is that I'm effectively telling myself what I want. Once I talk to my T about the fantasies, he helps me to figure out what I'm "really" longing for and then, I can determine which longings are most important (and attainable) and which ones I will never have (and let the grieveing process begin). In the end, I will know what changes would make me happier, and I will come to accept what I can't change. (I hope, I hope.)
Does this rambling make any sense? Sorry if it's all just me projecting.
I hope you feel better soon.
Take care,
Laurie
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