Posted by frida on May 30, 2005, at 8:58:59
In reply to that was lovely » frida, posted by shrinking violet on May 28, 2005, at 14:23:38
dear shrinking violet,
i'm sending you safe hugs if ok- thank you for reading...
it meant a lot.
my t has felt frustrated with me a thousand times-she has even stopped seeing me for a while, because I would not talk- and she said that she could not help me if I didn't talk- when I read about your T, i get the feeling maybe she felt a bit lost about how to help, sometimes T's can feel lost - when my T felt that way I felt so awful, I felt like I was a 'lost case'..she told me that she was trying to push me a bit, because as a t she has a commitment and responsibility towards me and can't let me keep suffering the way i was- she told me that love is not always so soft, we talked about that a lot, because it truly hurt when she was pushy towards me and frustrated- when before she had been so loving and gentle with me.
I feel that your T probably was having similar feelings- but you just didn't have time to work this out -- i'm so sorry -
i don't want to stir up painful feelings in you-
i so wish you could get some closure or talk with your T- it is very painful to have so many things unsaid, and so many things unsolved between you--i'm sending you lots of support
thinking of you
please stay safe,
frida
> Frida,
> That was so beautifully touching. I could have written every word, in relation to me and my (now ex) T as well.
> Thank you,
> sv
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