Posted by Jazzed on May 29, 2005, at 10:22:21
In reply to Re: How Do I Tell My T » Soxy, posted by Dinah on May 29, 2005, at 9:20:38
> I can't add much to what Tamar said. Other than to tell you that it has been my experience that no matter how shameful I think something is, my therapist never seems to find it that way. Even when I told him my last remaining secret.
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> And nothing you've expressed here on the board seems shameful at all.
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> So her reaction will probably be very reassuring to you.
I can't agree more with what's been said by Tamar and Dinah. You are not disgusting and neither is your sexual orientation. It's a part of what makes you who you are. Would it be easier to write your feelings down in a letter to your T, to let them know how threatening this feels to you, and how you're just not ready to discuss this, and tell them how you fear being rejected, or that they'll feel disgusted by you? I don't think for one minute that will happen though. Being gay is so normal now, I don't think there are too many people who give it undue thought, and a T should be esp. sensitive to your feelings. When I was researching T's on our insurance web site, there wasn't one who didn't have gay lesbian bi-sexual and sexual orientation as one of the issues they deal with. I hope you can become more comfortable with discussing this with your T. I mean do you really think there's nothing they haven't heard before? I know everyone has their really sensitive issues, but I also know it would be a bad (and rare) T who would find anything you've said disgusting.(((hugs))) and good luck!
Jazzed
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