Posted by Tamar on May 27, 2005, at 14:28:53
In reply to My T has amazed me and my husband, posted by happyflower on May 27, 2005, at 8:21:32
I don't know about being clingy and attached; I would say that you need to allow yourself to trust him. Maybe that would feel to you like being clingy and attached, and I think it's inevitable that trusting him will mean being somewhat attached. I'm sure occasional phone calls are allowed, especially when you're feeling really bad.In my view it's a question of committing to therapy, and to getting better. If you feel you are holding back because you want to save yourself pain in the future, then I would say it's best not to hold back. Be as trusting as you can be with reasonable comfort.
I don't think holding back now will gain you anything in the long term. I know therapy helped me a lot. It was definitely worth it. I can't deny it was painful at times, but I think that facing the pain was one of the things that made change possible.
Just my two cents.
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