Posted by 64bowtie on May 26, 2005, at 1:57:38
In reply to conflictedness » 64bowtie, posted by badhaircut on May 25, 2005, at 12:21:11
» bhc »
> Mental conflict is inherent and inescapable. I am beginning to suspect that our brains were made to maintain such conflicts, not to resolve them.
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<<< Perhaps an abstraction of what you are concerned with might shed light: 'Time/value' may not seem like it belongs in this discussion, whereas dysfunction probably is OK to talk about here...If we are dealing with multigenerational/multilayer dysfunction in our lives, when would we ever have an organized and disciplined time to see a moment of un-conflictedness? So I tend to err on the side of peaceful resolution as a worthwhile goal... Bare in mind that we average 20 minor conflicts in our daily lives...
I ask the question, with all that practice, why are we so bad at conflict resolution? I submit that its our afinity for dysfunction (dysfunction can be summed up as a collection or suite of bad habits, interlinked and teaming up to affect us negatively, ergo affective disorder)... Depression is the 'poster-child' affective-disorder, and is ubiquitous...
As for 'time/value', if your time and responsibilities get compressed by happenstance, conflicts will increase because they have an invisible clock that defies reason. As our time is compressed and our responsibilities increase, our conflict management skills tend to suffer... This phenomenon might partially explain you feelings that we are increasingly attracted to more and more conflicts....
> Perhaps a struggle to resolve some scary inner conflict could drain creative resources.
<<< Athletes report that their amount of creativity seems to be inversely proportional to the amount of time spent working out and exercizing, sorta like creativity shares the same calories that their working out and exercizing demands... Perhaps conflict is also similarly inversely proprotional....
Rod
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