Posted by Pfinstegg on May 25, 2005, at 21:32:42
In reply to Re: Is there any other way to interpret this? » JenStar, posted by Dinah on May 25, 2005, at 19:48:47
Some people, even when they've been in therapy a long time, don't get in touch with how much they really need from other people. There are all those intense longings, deep in our minds, there because they were not met when we were young, I think that coming to know that is wonderful. Taking that next step- exploring how intense your needs really are- that in fact they are driving you to be inauthentic and formal when you'd really like to be natural, and causing you terrible fears of being too much for other people- that's just a great step. The only way out of this situation- which is all of ours, too,- is to gather all the courage you have (you have a lot), and let it come into the therapy fully. You are not dealing with the same person who said, quite a long time ago, that he didn't like dependent women. He can really see things for what they are now; if not, these feelings of yours wouldn't be coming to the surface- it takes two to make good things happen, don't you think?
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