Posted by JenStar on May 24, 2005, at 18:02:15
In reply to Wow. It's not just my therapist., posted by Dinah on May 24, 2005, at 16:52:55
hi Dinah,
you describe the family therapy situation rather lightly, as if it were not too big a deal, but it seems to me that it would be a very stressful situation! First of all, you're there with the entire family - which is new and different. I don't know if you're the kind of person who wants to impress people like T's (I am!) but even if you're not, doesn't just the idea of being on "display" for a new person seem kind of daunting? And then you and the hubby had an argument, which was small, but still it seems very important to you that the therapist see the issues he was doing. And then you were always trying to point out your own flaws first, which means you have to be on-guard the entire time, paying strict attention. That alone sort of indicated to me that maybe you were concerned with your appearance and wanted to impress the T, which to me seems a very normal feeling, but also draining.And then on top of it, there are probably the concerns about your son, and the hopes that therapy will be beneficial.
If those things are in fact true (not just in my head!) then that's a lot to keep floating around and deal with. It's enough to cause a TON of mental fatigue!
I think you should give yourself more credit for going & doing this. It's hard work, even if it doesn't hit you until later. Kind of like a therapy "hangover."
Anyway, congrats for doing this!
take care,
JenStar
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