Posted by Tamar on May 23, 2005, at 7:15:51
In reply to Fill-in-the-blank perfection, posted by messadivoce on May 22, 2005, at 21:44:47
I sometimes think of my ex-T as perfect, and I always get annoyed when I think that way. I imagine he has a good marriage and a nice family life and a nice house and a nice car. I know he’s professionally successful; I believe he’s very good at applying himself to his work, and I compare myself unfavourably with him. I wish I were a better parent, a better spouse, and a better employee. I wish I were more like how I imagine him. I’m sure if I were a man I’d be convinced his penis was bigger than mine!
I don’t want him to be perfect. I want him to feel petulantly aggrieved at the rule that says we can’t be friends. I want him to harbour unprofessional feelings for me. I want him to meet me for coffee. Sigh.
I read somewhere recently about a survey of psychologists, in which they were asked whether being psychologists made them better parents. Most of them said no, but being parents made them better psychologists. I can imagine that.
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