Posted by Dinah on May 16, 2005, at 9:26:24
In reply to Re: Would it help to teach some CBT for kids in school » alexandra_k, posted by Tamar on May 15, 2005, at 18:19:44
Our moral instruction of our son is more pragmatic than moral.
Just as we tell him that with responsibility comes power, and vice versa, we also tell him that doing things that can result in babies (with or without condoms) should come with the ability to take care of said baby. Because if he and a girl gets pregnant, the only power he has is to block an adoption. If she decides to have an abortion, he can't stop her. If she decides to keep the baby, his life as he planned it may well be over, since he'll be responsible for child support. Which he will morally and ethically owe the child. When he's willing to take on those responsibilities, he's ready for sex. It's his choice and his responsibility.
So far we've just said those things on a very child friendly basis. After we teach him a bit more how babies are made, we can and will be a lot more explicit.
If he chooses to put his future on the line, there's nothing we can do to stop him. But we want him to know that sex is more than fun.
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