Posted by cricket on April 18, 2005, at 7:51:06
In reply to Re: I told him and I'm sorry. Triggery I guess -sexual » fallsfall, posted by Dinah on April 16, 2005, at 19:31:45
> I must be tapping into some well of fear of sexually predatory women, or g*d only knows what old pathology of his, that I've never accidentally tapped into before. But he didn't need to countertransfer all over me!!!
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Hi Dinah,
I don't post much here, but your post reminded so much of a dream I had about my T that I wanted to respond.First of all in non-dreaming life there are lots and lots of issues with my T. I've been seeing him for almost 3 years now and I still don't feel comfortable, still don't reveal much of anything to him and am ready to quit every week although for some reason the thought of quitting terrifies me but that's another story.
Anyway, in the dream, as opposed to real life, we did have a good session. I felt soothed and liked. As I stood up to leave, he held out his hand for me to shake (which he does in real life) but as I took it I leaned in to kiss him on the cheek (which I would never do in real life with him but I do live in a sort of kissy cheek culture where it means nothing but how are you? or thank you or take care - certainly nothing sexual)and I meant nothing sexual about it in the dream. But then in the dream my T jumps back and squeals like I just stuck a gun to his head.
I left mortified. But then when I woke up, I thought that's your issue you moron. "A fear of sexually predatory women" as you say, Dinah.
I know that this is no help at all. But know that your T isn't the only one who acts sexually terrified or whatever it is around a client.
From reading your posts though, it sounds like you will work it out with him. I am sure an apology is coming forthwith.
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