Posted by Tamar on April 18, 2005, at 4:55:16
In reply to stuck in my mind, posted by namaste on April 17, 2005, at 21:22:20
The longing is so painful. And it must be awful to feel you can’t get the support you need because of the expense. Is it possible to negotiate financially with your T? In some cases a T will see clients for less than their usual fee in order to provide as much support as the client needs or wants. But not all Ts do this.
I started journalling, and writing down all my feelings about my T (in embarrassing detail). Might that be helpful for you? I found that it gave my longing a focus: I didn’t long for him any less, but somehow it helped me to cope with the pain of it. From time to time I go back and read what I wrote a few months ago and somehow I find it comforting.
Also, have you talked to your T about the longing? Maybe talking it through would help a little. It’s not easy to start that discussion, of course. But it might provide some relief.
Tamar
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