Posted by Dinah on April 13, 2005, at 18:06:06
In reply to Re: Ouch Ouch Ouch » Dinah, posted by Shortelise on April 13, 2005, at 11:20:10
He really didn't have a choice about cancelling. It was a family situation that he couldn't control. But the dynamics were such that I thought it wasn't unlikely that it would happen. He's got a sick family member and he's the only one around to handle it this week. I knew not only that it might be a problem, but also that he wouldn't know whether he could see clients until the very morning I was due to see him at 8 am. No, I'm not clairvoyant, but it's reasonable to make certain guesses based on the situation.
He called back later in the morning and offered to see me later in the day, but that wasn't possible on my end. :(( That made me feel even more rotten, although of course I understand that he felt he needed to offer.
Then I threw kindness to the wind and called back and left a message wailing that I was scared that I wouldn't see him for two weeks, but he didn't need to call me back. Then I called back again and said I lied - I would like him to call back.
He did call back, and said that it was always his intention to offer to see me this weekend if that's the only way he could see me before he left - even if he had seen me today. And that I didn't need to worry about that.
He sounded ok.
I do have an unhealthy urge to gather him up and hold him tight while he's under stress.
And another urge to run away because I don't want to see him under stress, and I'm afraid we'll fight.
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