Posted by alexandra_k on April 5, 2005, at 0:39:16
In reply to I don't know where else to post this, so....., posted by Larry Hoover on April 4, 2005, at 19:53:21
Yeah Larry. I get you. I hear you. I have a tendancy to do that too. My only clue is that my distress and upset is way out of proportion to the present situation - but in light of the past situation it is an understandable response.
Validation can be useful there to help the bad feelings come back into control.
But sometimes it is hard to come by.
I liked what Dinah said before.
About how everyones feelings can be validated and be acceptable all at the same time.
To validate someones perspective or take or feelings doesn't have to invalidate someone elses.There seem to be a lot of bad feelings all round at the moment.
:-(
I don't know what to say.
I am sorry for my above comment.
I spoke first and thought later.
I wish I hadn't posted it in hindsight.:-(
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