Posted by Shortelise on March 14, 2005, at 20:33:30
In reply to This has more me more freaked out than I thought, posted by daisym on March 14, 2005, at 0:13:08
((Daisy))
I believe that in therapy it can be imperative to experience the kind of dependancy you're experiencing.
I also believe that your T is a really, really good one and that he knows what's going on with you and he knows it's the right thing for you. He knows it's what will untimately help you heal.
This is hard to explain, so bear with me, ok? You are ashamed at feeling so needy. Your T is encouraging you to be so. Why are you ashamed when you are going with the program, so to speak?
And you are in that child place - Are you denying the child the connection?
I want that child to connect, to call, to ask for what she needs. I want her to get as close to getting what she needs as she can.
You know I am nearing the close of my therapy, but when I was there, in that child place where there was so much need and so much pain, I did call, I did leave the message, I did talk with my T when I felt I needed to. Because part of healing that child is to try to understand her needs, and help her overcome her fears and her shame. There is no shame in a child needing to be attached.
Daisy, can you give yourself a bit of a break here? Lay off, ok? Say nice things to yourself, not mean things. Sheesh, woman, haven't you been through enough?
And I'll answer for your T. "Daisy, I won't be gobbled by the work monster, we'll find the time to work together, and together we'll get to a comfortable place for you to work on things with me. I know because you've told me. We'll work through this together."
Hope this helps, Daisy.
ShortE
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