Posted by littleone on March 8, 2005, at 14:24:22
In reply to Eye contact..., posted by alexandra_k on March 7, 2005, at 19:49:32
Depending on the person, I either have terrible eye contact or none at all.
Some people I can look at, but usually only because I make myself do it because it is expected of you. But this only happens with people I stay removed from. Kind of like they just get my social face, they don't get me. But even then, I can't look at them when I talk. I'll be looking looking and they'll ask a question and my eyes will slide away while I answer. Then they'll flick back afterwards.
Some people I can't look at at all. If I don't like them/disapprove of them/etc. And I think this type of no eye contact is because I don't want them to see what I really think of them.
And then there are some people I can't look at at all because I do like them. I think this one is all tied up in shame.
I never ever make eye contact with my T. When I was first seeing him, he tried different things to try to overcome this problem. One of his attempts involved drawing a smilie face and sticking it up in front of me. I was supposed to make eye contact with the picture.
I couldn't even do that :(
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