Posted by crushedout on January 20, 2005, at 23:11:01
In reply to Re: Really good session today » crushedout, posted by Dinah on January 20, 2005, at 22:31:19
> Hmmm... I'd say it was probably specific things from various posts that melded together to make me think she's a sensible and reasonably empathetic therapist. Which isn't so common that I discount it. For example, in your example from today, she appeared to show humor, flexibility, and common sense.
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> Isn't that your impression of her?Yeah, that was my impression today. That was in part why I felt so good about the session.
> I know you don't feel a special bond with her. But it may be because I'm not a love at first sight sort of girl myself, but I think that it makes sense to assess the overall potential of a person and a relationship, and then get attached, rather than vice versa.
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> Of course, not everyone responds positively to the same qualities in a therapist. A fair amount of flexibility and "give" in a therapist is important to me, because I tend to push where there is resistance. But other people might need more firmness and perceive weakness in the flexibility I need. So it may or may not be that what appear to be positive traits to me are also positive traits to you.Yeah. Or they may *seem* like positive traits to me (i.e., I might "like" them) but not be ultimately healthy for me. Like the ever-so-slight and seemingly harmless "boundary crossing" of letting us run over time. I'm NEVER going to complain about that, but with someone like me, it might be better to have rigid boundaries about that sort of thing. On the other hand, I don't know. I think *really* rigid boundaries might just be too big of a turnoff, period.
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